The mystery of women.
We are complex creatures, no doubt- but we were created that way. It's part of what makes us so beautiful.
Though we may be complex, all women have one longing, one desire inside their hearts. We have a Question.
That Question is:
Am I lovely?
All women were created to be feminine of heart; we want to be lovely, beautiful, desired, be worthy of love. We want to be fought for, to be pursued and respected and treated like a princess.
But so many are lost along the way.
Why is this?
It can happen at different points in life.
A girl begins with her relationship with her father. She shows off her little Sunday school dress and wants to know if she is lovely. It is ingrained in her. If she does not get the positive attention she needs, it will hurt.
Later in life, women go to men to have their Question answered. Many fragile hearts of women have been trampled as a result of this. "You're ugly." "You're fat." "You're stupid." "You're not enough." Or, if they are accepted, they will hinge their beauty on that relationship. They do not know of their loveliness apart from that person. It has the potential to rip their feminine heart apart.
Women put themselves through emotional Hell because of their Question.
Because they take it to the wrong person.
Their Question should be directed at God.
"I want to be beautiful
And make you stand in awe
Look inside my heart
And be amazed
I want to hear you say
Who I am is quite enough
I just want to be worthy of love
And beautiful" Bethany Dillon "Beautiful"
"Am I lovely?"
"The King is enthralled by your beauty" Psalm 45:11
God created you in His image! He looks upon you as a fair maiden, worthy of His love that He wants so strongly to give you!
"Therefore I am now going to allure her;
I will lead her into the desert
and speak tenderly to her" Hosea 2:14
God wants you to come to HIM with your Question. He will set your heart on fire and free, all at the same time.
(This post is based on the book, "Captivating" by John & Stasi Eldredge. ALL WOMEN SHOULD READ THIS BOOK. There is a book for men as well called "Wild at Heart" that discusses the Question in all men's hearts. Go get these books!)